Momentous aims to mentor young men and boys in such a way as to enable them to critically evaluate their understanding of masculinity, and how this understanding shapes their self view, their world view, and their behaviour.

Each school we work in has boys who are not engaging well with the education system, often struggling with chaotic and complicated home lives, and are well known to the often thinly stretched disciplinary staff. These are the very boys we want to help and support.

Momentous is a project through which we can give some time and long-term support to these boys. By building positive and supportive relationships with them over a whole school year, we want to show them that they are valued, help them to explore their identity, their worldview and how they can have a positive impact on the world around them.

We aim to improve their self-esteem, their emotional maturity, and self-awareness through a series of interactive sessions and one-to-one mentoring times. Each session focuses on a particular area of masculinity and how our view of ‘maleness’ affects how we approach that area. Relationships, authority, fear, ambition, image and self-esteem, influences, teamwork, and attitudes are all explored in a fun but informative way designed to stimulate discussion and critical thinking. Each session develops and reflects on the last as the journey of Momentous moves towards preparing these young men for not only their transitions in to young adulthood, but the rest of their lives.

Following the group session each boy will have a one-to-one session with their mentor to reflect on the session at an individual level and give the participants some time and space to explore any subjects they feel they need to in a more personal setting. Each boy will see the same mentor throughout the course, allowing the formation of trust and the proper development of the relationship.

Around two-thirds of the way through the course a trip will take place centering around some kind of outward bound activity that gives the boys not only the chance to cement relationships within the group, but also to be active, practice encouraging one another, maybe try something new, perhaps conquer a fear, and not least have some fun! The importance of having fun together cannot be underestimated. Our feeling is that, although we know it to be so much more, they will at the very least feel like they are worthy of our time and effort in giving them a nice day out, boosting their self-esteem in the process.

James (our boys mentoring leader) and Jonny (Hope Church, Wirral) have just started mentoring a new group of boys in Hilbre High School. If you would like more information about our course, please do get in touch. We are more than happy to chat!

“I’ve realised that being a man isn’t just about showing off and having lots of nice things, it’s a bit more about what’s going on inside” – Yr 6 participant